Learn Deeper Trust To Experience More Blissful Relationships

Most of you know that my dad died a little over 5 years ago. He had Alzheimer's Disease.

I was in my mid-twenties when he was sick, and I was also in a relationship for part of that critical time, a time when I was experiencing lots of grief and sadness.

I had a really amazing life & heart coach that I worked with at the time.

I remember going to her time after time and saying how I didn't feel like I couldn't talk to my boyfriend about what I was feeling and experiencing because he wouldn't get it.

His life seemed so normal, so clean, so *not* messy. Mine felt too messy for him. So I assumed he wouldn't get it, wouldn't be able to handle it, and wouldn't be able to hold space for me to talk about it.

Can you relate?

This caused me to feel incredibly alone. This caused me to feel immense suffering. Little did I know, I was creating this loneliness and suffering all on my own.

My coach had asked me if I'd ever even tried talking to him about any of what I was feeling.

I hadn’t.

I had only assumed he wouldn't get it. In fact, I was absolutely convinced he wouldn’t get it, and I refused to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Looking back, I wonder why I was so quick to doubt him. I also wonder why I was choosing to be in a relationship with someone who I doubted and didn’t really admire.

Why was I participating in a relationship with someone who I didn't think could support me or hold space for me, and why was I not allowing myself to utilize the power of the relationship to bring my full self in?

I think sometimes in our modern society, we forget why relationships are so powerful.

When two people decide to enter into a relationship with one another, it’s not just because they like looking at each other, it’s because on a much deeper level, we want to support and experience the full spectrum with one another: the ups and the downs, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

And when we welcome all of that into the relationship, and we welcome the space to feel all of it, and to heal all of it together, then we also open to feel and experience the deeper realms of love and pleasure that we desire.

When we actually remember this, we then remember to choose partners who we respect and admire, who we trust that we can show up as our full selves with, and who we trust will hold space for us, whether they fully understand what we’re feeling or not.

When we allow ourselves to freely communicate to our partners how we’re feeling, and we let them in on what it is we’re experiencing, then they can offer support, understanding, love and camaraderie. If we don’t let them in on what’s going on with us, then they cannot help.

A lot of times this also first requires us to welcome and be honest with ourselves about how we’re feeling, what’s going on, and what we need.

When we are able to welcome all parts of ourselves, with ourselves, first, it then feels safer and easier to show that to another person. This is the case sexually as well.

If you’ve been experiencing something similar in your own life, and you’re desiring support, then first allow yourself the space to get honest about it and feel it. Trust yourself to hold it first, and then trust that whomever you’ve decided to be in relationship with can handle it, too. And if they can’t, then you can choose the direction you desire to go once you know.

If you’re desiring to attract in and be with a partner who is able to hold space for all of you, and you haven’t experienced that kind of partner before, then by learning to hold space for yourself, you create a frequency around you that attracts in potential partners who are of a higher caliber.

In my private mentorship, I support and hold space for women to get to know themselves on a very deep level, both sexually and spiritually, which allows them to embody and expand into the divine women they’re meant to be in this life, and consequently experience confidence, pleasure & abundance, as well as dreamy relationships and careers. If you’re curious about how I can support you, then book a free call with me here and we can chat more!